Most Things Bothering you Today Won't Feel as Hard One Year from Now...
I was with a dear friend today chatting and reminiscing through high-lights and low-lights of 2025. We were going over moments of life, business, mother-hood etc. and it struck me that many of the things that felt really really hard throughout the year have resolved themselves or now seem like something I can laugh about. And that this is one lesson I can take with me into 2026.
The power of time is that many things that feel really big and heavy right now, kind of move into a different lens or frame as time passes. Here are some milestones that I have reflected on and how they change and lighten up over time…
Time and energy overwhelm:
In October of this year we were facing an unexpected move (no idea it was coming!) that landed one day after my biggest ‘in person’ event of the fall, just as my husband was headed on a longer work trip and I was feeling exhausted just writing out the sequence of events that needed to happen with little to no recovery time, while in parenting mode 24-7 (anyone else’s kids love the 4 hour bed time? Haha) This is nothing I could have predicted or organized for, but I showed myself that even when things happen in a less than desirable way, I can pull this off! This is a reminder I can give myself when I get stuck in thoughts about impossibe sounding timelines or calendars that generate pure overwhelm. The final week of October 2025 was not a walk in the park, but you got through it (plus hilarious flash backs of eating brownies in an empty bath tub at 1 am surrounded by boxes for sugar boost to get through!)
Fear of Opinions:
Whether it is how you govern your own health care, choose a career, decide to parent or just generally live your life, everyone is always going to have opinions. To this day, I still hear people say things like ‘didn’t you waste so much money’ going to Naturopathic college ad then just quitting? And with every year that has passed, it goes from less of a sore wound and more of a ‘funny you should ask, it was a wonderful investment I could never regret’. When a tough decision or a life event is new and fresh to us, it can feel salty to talk about it with others. But over time, as our confidence anchors in, it can feel like an easy-breazy exchange that doesn’t effect us at all.
My Life Should Have Looked like This by Now, Am I behind?:
The majority of people each year will have some sort of personal existential crisis about whether or not they are ‘on track’ to what they thought they should have/be by now. Often times it is a goal for a professional achievement, a new title, a dollar amount or the number of kids they should have. Sometimes they are chasing a ‘feeling’ that they think should be present every day ‘shouldn’t I just be happy every day?’
As much as I still have goals and dreams for my impact on the world and the things I want to create, I have found so much more peace in the little things - small wins like making one female entrepreneur’s day better, a quiet breakfast with my family, leaving a space a little better than I found it. I have learned to trust God’s Timing!
Am I the Queen + Master of not letting things bother me? Absolutely not. But have I found a little peace in these reflections… You bet!
So ask yourself, what is something that was really bothering me last year? How did it resolve itself?
How can I find just a little more peace and trust in what is going on right now and that it will all be ok.
Thanks for being here!
